Board Thread:Wiki Running/@comment-24260217-20160727075609/@comment-26235098-20160801004452

Good grief!

@Lucas & Emma Ok -- first and foremost, feeding the trolls IS explicitly against chat rules for all. Mods need to 'handle' the troll - warn, kick, ban, as appropriate. Non-mods need to be silent or civil publically, and/or alert a mod by PRIVATE MESSAGE. This is all written in the rules.

@Everyone - Lucas (kudos) seemed to be the one with his feet most firmly planted on the ground through all this, calling for folks to just calm down, in the face of a simple misunderstanding/series of misunderstandings and overreaction.

@Emma and Leo: you guys have history. You can't ignore it, but you need to allow things to grow in a new direction. Rather than assuming that the other person is dramatizing on purpose, or dissing you, because of your history, allow a fresh start each time. And each time, assume good faith - at least in your behavior/speech. Slowly, this can improve your interactions, and perhaps even rebuild some trust.

For example, someone saying to get some sleep isn't particularly disrespectful, or insulting, and can readily be taken as a suggestion, not a command. I do not see that as an instigation or 'cause' of drama. The reaction to this was excessive imho.... and then of course things escalate.

@CHAT MODs: You need to be setting examples, not throwing fuel on what you perceive as a flame. If someone must be called out, or warned, this can be done POLITELY. Emma's decision to leave seemed to me a reasonable and mature decision at that point, if only to take the situation down a notch. So why not be civil about it? Say 'bye' or say nothing. Avoid "good riddance" type messages, eg: Leo/'au revoir! :D'and DragonFunk/'just get out' - those were ARE unnecessary AND rude remarks, by anybody. But by a chat mod this is unacceptable. I'd have kicked you BOTH for that. Good thing I guess for you that I am busy IRL and thus kinda scarce lately.

@Leo: I have seen you keep a cool head - I know you are capable of doing this... so please stick to it! Remember, you were 1) spared demotion once, narrowly, 2) earned demotion with grievous aggressive behavior 3) re-promoted by consensus on faith that you had improved. Please show the community their faith was well placed this time.